Tuesday, July 8, 2008

a time for everything...

Well, I guess my 30 year old midget really does get it...most of it...on many different levels. Oh where to begin...

For the last few nights at bedtime, Aly has been asking a lot about marriage, falling in love, her Daddy and I, etc. Last night it all kind of came to a head in her little brain. She has one of our wedding pictures on her bedside table...it is her favorite. (She used to bring it into our bedroom with her when she would sleep over with us.) Anyway, last night she looked at it and asked if that was the only picture I had of when her Daddy and I got married. I told her that there was a big album on the shelf and asked her if she would like to see them. Of course she did. So she and I sat on her bed and looked through our wedding album. She thoroughly enjoyed herself!

Then she started getting all weird acting again...much like at the pool the other day. I asked her what was wrong and she finally said that she didn't know how to say it. I told her to go for it and even if she said it wrong we would figure it out together. So she finally mumbled something about not wanting to ever get married. She said that she would miss us too much and she would always be our daughter and she would never leave us like that. HOLY COW...it all clicked in my pea brain. She was associating getting married with Abandoning US!!! We then had a LONG talk about how that is not what happens when you get married and that when you marry your husband you are SUPPOSED to cling to him and go to live with him and not with your Mommy and Daddy anymore. I told her that was how God designed it. I reminded her of all the times we called her grandparents and visited them...that we didn't "leave them", we just started a new life with each other and that one day, God willing, she would do the same thing. (I also assured her that we would never let her marry anyone who wouldn't agree to our terms...building a house here on this property right next to our home so we could see her daily!! She thought that was hilarious!!) I assured her that marriage was a LONG way off in her future and that she would be an adult when that happened and that she would feel differently by then.
Oi Vei!!!! I can't believe my FOUR YEAR OLD is going to these places in her little FOUR YEAR OLD brain!!!! God help me when she gets to be a teenager!!!
Oh...speaking of God helping me. Any guesses where Aly is at the moment?? Well, she just came in and asked me if there was anything I needed her to do because she wanted to go into her room and close the door for a little while. I asked her if she was alright. She said, "Yes, I'm fine...I just need to regroup!" Then she looked at Lili and said, "It wouldn't hurt you to go regroup a little while too!!"
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for
peace." Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Well, I guess my little munchkin has a lot to learn about times and seasons...but she is well on the way. Maybe we will start memorizing this verse...perhaps it will help her to get it all straight!!

~Abba...thank you for my amazing children. Please keep my words right and give me divine discernment when it comes to my girls. Help me to know their hearts and minds in amazing ways so that I can help them to be amazingly God-ly equipped for what you have planned for them- Amen~

In HIS Mighty Grip~


a Tonggu Momma said...

What interesting conversations little Aly is beginning to have with you! And the "regroup" comment... if the Tongginator quoted me, she's be mimicking that, too. LOL.

OziMum said...

Man! We just don't give our kids enough credit for what they think in their young minds. Some adults don't have thinking that deep!!!

What a precious little girl. God sooo chose her just for you and David - to set her young mind at ease.

AZMom said...

What an interesting conversation to have with a 4 year old. Bug often worries about leaving us and getting married too. She also asked us if she HAD to adopt too because she really wants to adopt but she also wants to have a tummy baby (her words). It is amazing what goes on in their heads!

Anonymous said...

Good grief Shelley! I say again, GOOD GRIEF! At 4 years old?!? You have the makings of an Einstein there.....Our kids haven't even begun to go there yet. (not even thinking about it) You have a pure intellect on your hands! Um, don't exactly envy you guys! ;o)

Amazing.....that Aly correlated abandoning with marriage. So glad you kicked that one! whew....

I'll be following you guys into the TWEEN/TEEN years. I'm sure. Can't wait for that! *turning green already* hehehe....*s*

Ain't the journey great?!


The Morris Family said...

amazing. just amazing how their minds and hearts work. pure and unfiltered delight. thanks for sharing- and thanks for being such an inspiration- love that you always always use biblical principles in your explanations- sometimes, it really is so simple when we do...

prechrswife said...

It really is amazing how their minds work. And the "regroup" thing--I almost spit on my keyboard laughing. :-)